Many men want only sex, not a relationship, says Tems.

By Ayo Onikoyi

Grammy‑winning Nigerian singer Tems shared her perspective on contemporary dating, claiming that many men approach relationships with a primary focus on sex rather than emotional connection.

During an episode of Flow With Korty, the artist was asked whether she had ever experienced love. She replied that a significant number of men are very clear about their intentions from the start.

“A lot of guys, they are very obvious. There is no agenda but to penetrate,” she said.

The comment sparked discussion on social media, with fans and commentators weighing in on her view of modern romance.

Tems also discussed her upbringing, noting that her reserved nature often led to misunderstandings and bullying while she was young. She described how people questioned her speech patterns and behavior, which at times made her feel isolated.

She added that music became a refuge, allowing her to express herself and build confidence during challenging times.

Renowned for her soulful sound and reflective songwriting, Tems frequently draws on personal experiences in her work, earning her a global audience and critical praise.

Her recent remarks have once again drawn attention to her personal insights, eliciting widespread reactions from fans and followers online.

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