Spice up your Relationship


We spend much of our day running at full speed. It’s not surprising, therefore, that we might roll our eyes at the idea of adding more things to our to-do list, especially if it involves trying harder to please our mate. Are they doing enough for me, you might ask? While it’s important to have your own needs met, it’s also vital to see your marriage as a partnership. First things first, this is no “how to please your man” kind of list. It’s a discussion about how to be your best self while considering your partner’s needs. After all, teamwork makes the dream work, right? As I’ve explained to counseling clients in the past, you don’t have to wait for your husband to start doing the right things — be the one who sparks the change! So, in that spirit, here are some things that your husband wishes you’d do more often.

  1. Let loose and have fun: Life can be so hectic nowadays it’s easy to lose sight of what’s important. We are often juggling multiple obligations at once and, in order to keep up, we can become fixated on maintaining certain schedules and routines. Your husband would probably love it if you just let loose and decided to go with the flow for a change. It might be tough, at first, to buck with tradition but, ultimately, you will probably end up feeling refreshed and rejuvenated. Ditch the office during lunch time and meet up with your hubby instead. You will both enjoy that extra time together in the middle of the day!
  2. Make the first move; We all have our preferences about whether we are the pursuer or the pursued, and really, many women seem to prefer being chased. As long as your partner is fine with this dynamic, it’s no one’s business but your own. Deep down, though, he might really wish that — once in a while — you were the hunter. Of course, there are plenty of relationships where the wife takes on this role regularly but, if you traditionally haven’t, it could be a nice surprise. Come up with a fun way of initiating some alone time. He’ll be pleasantly surprised you’re taking the reins.
  3. Embrace your sexuality: Every day, women are bombarded with messages about how we should, and should not, express our sexuality. As a result, so many of us become shy or uncomfortable with our bodies and it can have an impact on our intimate relationships.Research has shown that women experience orgasm during intercourse far less frequently than men which, of course, is entirely unfair. Chances are that your husband wants you to enjoy sex as much as he does and would be willing to work on it, but he might need some gentle guidance. Pick up some books, watch some videos, and grab a mirror so that you can explore your own body. Once you feel comfortable, invite your husband to play along.
  4. Put down your phone: It’s pretty frustrating to try to have a conversation with someone when their face is buried into the screen of their phone. We’ve all been annoyed by this, yet, we still do it to others on a regular basis.Your husband probably wishes you’d toss that thing aside more often and focus on him, especially if you are easily upset by things you see on social media (and, therefore, need to vent), or the glare keeps him up at night!First thing in the morning and right before bed, try to have a “phone-free” chat with your husband so that you begin and end each day feeling connected.
  5. Tell him he’s your favorite: Most of us have to deal with the memories of the exes in our spouse’s past. Hopefully, we are secure enough in our relationship that it doesn’t create any unnecessary issues. Still, it’s pretty normal to feel insecure sometimes, especially when a story about an ex-seems particularly memorable or nostalgic. In those moments, a little reassurance can go a long way, even if your husband is brushing it off. If some great story from your past comes up, acknowledge that wonderful piece of history but let your husband know that his chapter in your life is your favorite!Read More: http://www.thelist.com/61557/things-husband-wishes-often/?utm_campaign=clip